I arrived a few minutes late in order to miss four minutes of jumping rope in my boxing class. The trick is to walk in urgently like I didn’t mean for it to happen. Pat, our instructor, led us through challenging drills for just under an hour and I left drenched in sweat.
Yellow Caution Tape!
That wasn’t there on my way in. I looked up to see fire trucks and a charred building. OMG! What happened? Everything changed in the space of one hour. A fire started and was extinguished. An insurance adjuster was already on the scene taking notes.
I take for granted the systems that are in place to handle stuff when it happens. Everything made all neat and tidy while we were in class, oblivious to something devastating going on next door.
Fires are fascinating, unless, of course, it’s your house burning down.
The structure will be repaired. Decisions will be made by people who know exactly what to do. Everything organized with plans, action steps and timelines.
Someone’s regret won’t be so easy to handle.
That moment of looking away or losing focus and the ball is missed or someone lands one smack on your chin or a fire starts. Was it my fault? Did I cause that? But the phone rang and so I…If only I hadn’t…maybe it was electrical and it was no one’s fault…except for the nagging doubt…I should have known.
We don’t have procedures for managing guilt, regret, fear or anger. Usually, we spend time sorting out who or what is to blame. Who is responsible for this mess? How do we prevent it from happening again?
Then, the hard part, forgiving everyone involved
What could you do instead?
- Let someone off the hook and forgive them. How? Stop repeating the story. You’ve already told…over and over again.
- Stop listening to other people repeating their stories. Change the subject. Walk away. Break the habit.
- Forgive yourself for something. Permission to heal is granted. Imagine the ripple effect your smile will cause.
Grab hold and celebrate life today. Maybe you’ll even start laughing for no reason at all.