Because Phil told Mom, 50 Bikers Against Bullies Showed Up
This Bikers Against Bullies show of support for Phil Mick, age 11, is a perfect example of a defensive — or reverse Eddie Attack — in action. This a perfect way to interrupt the pattern, and change the game. Whenever a bully acts like everyone is on his side, you show him — very nicely and politely — who you’ve got on your side.
Mom steps in as Agent September, Cornerman
CNN reported: “They were calling him ‘fat,’ cussing at him. Hitting him in private areas,” Tammy Mick, 38, told CNN. “He told me one day, he wanted to end his life.”
But Phil’s new friends were determined to make sure that didn’t happen. They wanted this school year to be different.
They stepped in to make sure kids thought twice before launching insults or playing tricks with their Grandiose Attacks on Phil.
Because he’s got people on his side, Phil has confidence. He feels connected, respected, protected and not alone.
Get Some Super-Heroes in Your Corner
When someone is using an Eddie Attack against you, they’re treating you like an outsider. Or they can treat you like an insider, until they get what they want from you, then you’re back to being an outsider again. Most movies about high school bullying feature this manipulative dynamic.
Showing up for school accompanied by more than 50 bikers makes for a great first day.
Doubtful that any kid is going to risk bothering young Phil. Imagine telling your parents that they have to deal with a biker gang because of something you did to Phil.
That puts Phil in a respected, protected position.
I wonder how Phil’s doing. Most likely, those bullies will find someone else to pick on. If I were eleven, I’d be his friend. Dang! Did you see all of those bikers!
The best defense against people using the Eddie move on you, is to reverse it and use it on them.
- Even if, no one is on your side, act like the world loves you. You are loved!
- Make up a story, if that works for you. Nothing wrong with having invisible friends who are tough as nails at your beck and call.
- Get some real people on your side. Join clubs to meet people with similar interests.
- Don’t isolate yourself. That’s letting the bullies win.
- Stay strong. You are not the only person who has dealt with this situation.
- Learn what to do to defend and protect yourself. Later in life, those skills will come in handy.
- Fight back, like Phil, by connecting to people who like you. Don’t give up.
- Defend and protect each other by staying loyal and backing each other up. Like the bikers did for Phil.
- When the social media bullying starts, get your friends to stick up for each other. Make a game plan!
Bullying Has Been a Problem Since Before Your Grandparents Were Born
Watching “Criminal Minds“, and working on this blog post, I heard a conversation about the infamous Eddie Haskell, the kid who inspired me to name “the Eddie”, insider vs outsider attack, after him. He had a knack for being ever so formal with people in authority (parents, teachers, etc.) and as soon as they left, he’d return to bullying the younger kids.
People who watched that old black and white TV show, “Leave it to Beaver”, know exactly what I mean when I say, “you got the Eddie Haskell treatment”. Eddie was so fake and so annoying because he got away with it.
Here’s the scene from Criminal Minds, Season 12, Episode 11:
Medical Examiner (Joan Grayson): Everything alright in here?
Medical Student, Mr. Hilliard: Yes, ma’am. I thought I’d come in early to do some prep. [That was a lie. He came in early to set up a practical joke.]
Medical Examiner: [obviously not buying the lie] Mr. Hilliard, have you ever heard of Eddie Haskell?
Medical Student, Mr. Hilliard: (big smile) No, ma’am.
Medical Examiner: (no smile) I think you might be a direct descendant.
Medical Student, Mr. Hilliard: (another big smile) Well, thank you, ma’am.
Of course, his teacher didn’t mean it as a compliment. And that shows just how stupid Eddie really is.
Even if it doesn’t feel like it right now, I believe you can transform your world and help someone else along the way
The Bully by Jonah Maxwell, a 12-year-old, 7th grade student from Illinois.
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