The Role chosen for this situation: “The Bottleneck. To serve my needs and take care of myself, I’m perfectly happy to slow things down — even if that somehow spoils things for you.”
Bottleneck: a point of congestion or blockage, in particular.
I love the questions and stories readers send in to Alison Green from the AskaManager blog. This one illustrates how clueless and selfish some people can be.
my employee didn’t give a coworker the message that his wife was in surgery, and now everyone hates him
From the askamanager blog, a manager writes that he doesn’t want to work with a guy who made a self-serving decision that cost a fellow employee four hours of time — spent at work — that should have been spent at the hospital while his wife underwent emergency surgery. For the ultimate in selfish behavior, read below”
The Person Asking the Question: “
Cornerman Quotes to Help You Interrupt the Pattern, Change the Game
Restore balance and power: Go to Neutral. “Before you make a move you might regret. First, go to neutral. Make decisions from a calm place, not an emotional one.” Agent September, DramaGuru Magazine
Percival showed himself to be a person who is cold, disconnected, selfish and a person who cannot be trusted to do the right thing.
Notice the pattern he so willingly demonstrated. It’s not his co-workers’ job to change his behavior. Know that this pattern is there and let it inform future interactions. Analyze his actions and look for the DramaGuru positions, transitions and attacks that he uses to his advantage.
As a result of this much-gossiped about faux-pas, Percival may find himself experiencing a role that he didn’t choose:
The Cornerman advice remains the same for Percival…first, go to neutral and then, make a better decision.
Practice Mixed Martial Arts (MMA) for your mouth. This post is an all belt levels lesson.
Photo Credit: Don’t Be A Bottleneck