It’s all fun and games until someone puts an eye out
That parental admonition works for the trash-talking going on between Floyd Mayweather and Conor McGregor. As far as two men verbally pushing and shoving each other in an effort to keep the hype and publicity momentum rolling for their fight, both men are doing exactly what they’re supposed to do. Fans are fascinated by this boxing vs MMA contest.
But, when Conor shifted the taunting towards Floyd’s family, he missed Floyd and struck the children.
By casually, tossing the abuse on a world stage via the internet, Conor reminded everyone of what happened. Bringing it all up again. Making it OK for other people to join in the fun. Creating insiders vs outsiders.
Floyd wasn’t rattled, but his family was
For those of you playing DramaGuru, Conor set up the Eddie attack on Floyd and the members of his family.
This kind of attack happens all the time. It reminded me of the lyrics from an old song, “Dirty Laundry”, by Don Henley.
Kick ’em when they’re up
Kick ’em when they’re down
Dirty little secrets
Dirty little lies
We got our dirty little fingers in everybody’s pie
We love to cut you down to size
We love dirty laundry
Conor got carried away with his trash-talking
Conor McGregor crossed the line, by forgetting about the other people involved in Mayweather’s domestic violence history. Specifically, Josie Harris, Floyd’s former partner. They have three children.
No, I’m not the one who decided that the line was crossed.
The people involved, specifically, Josie Harris, the woman Floyd beat up — stepped forward, with an attorney speaking for her, to remind McGregor that the pain of the incident is still present for her and their children.
Josie knows she needs someone strong to be her cornerman.
Conor and his team went to great lengths to cause shame and embarrassment
I haven’t been hanging on every word regarding Mayweather vs McGregor. I’d heard something about Conor having a special jersey made to cause an upset. And, by not paying attention, I missed something important.
Now that Josie Harris has gone public to protect and defend the safe perimeter around her and her children, I realize that Conor stepped in doo-doo, wearing his special jersey.
There’s no honor in taking an action that causes upset, like fear and concern, in a child, a wife, victims of crime, etc.
- Mother of Floyd Mayweather’s children calls out Conor McGregor for domestic abuse exploitation
- Floyd Mayweather’s Ex Blasts McGregor Dom. Violence Is Not a Joke
- Full transcript of the statement (noted in the image above): Josie Harris
“On behalf of Josie Harris, her and Mayweather’s three children, and all victims of domestic violence, we ask that Conor McGregor refrain from capitalizing off of the trauma suffered by her and other victims of domestic abuse.” source
Everyone Makes Mistakes
I don’t expect anyone to be perfect. But once you find out that you missed your target and hit someone else, then it’s time to back off.
Did Conor’s latest effort need to happen? I don’t think so.
Back down, apologize and move on.
Conor and Floyd have everyone’s attention regarding this highly anticipated fight. I vote to leave family out of their professional trash-talking.
DramaGuru Relationships card 57: To cause shame and disrespect, I pulled the rug out from under you. Hah! Everyone’s laughing because you deserve it.
Karma: Causing harm to an unintended target, ends up harming the person who started the attack more.
First Example: Remember Kathy Griffin holding Trump’s head?
Pinging someone in the audience instead of her intended target, put a major dent in Kathy Griffin’s career. President Trump’s son, Barron, age 11, was distraught by the image of Kathy holding an effigy of his father’s head. That was bad. Kathy was severely punished, losing several contracts.
Second example: When Angela Magana sent out a remixed, insulting photo of Cris Cyborg
…but didn’t bother to crop out the little boy standing in front of Cris, sharing a special “Superman” moment.
So, here’s another embarrassing UFC fighter example to add to this page. Angela Magana making fun of Cris Cyborg while Cris entertained kids at a cancer hospital. One of the boys was included in the photo that Angela tweeted.
Like any hungry Collector, Angela couldn’t wait to milk all the joy out of that moment.
And just for the record, President Trump was the Collector in Kathy’s situation. He broke her when her employers cancelled contracts and engagements. Trump got to milk and then lap up all of Kathy’s self-inflicted fear, shame and disappointment.
Standing in the position of Collector means you find humor in other people’s pain
I mentioned before that, from the perspective of DramaGuru, no one is innocent. All of us, say something stupid and step in doo-doo. Some of us step in it, too often. This time, Conor went too far by directing public attention on an incident that exists in a bubble of shame.
Standing in the position of Collector means you don’t consider the impact of your cruelty on the other people connected to the incident
Someone dug deep to find that jersey. But no one on Conor’s team was able to stop him from going too far.
Has Conor gotten so big that he’s stopped listening to common sense from the people in his corner?
Or is he happy to listen to sycophants, echoing his words back to him without argument, hoping to stay in his good graces?
Some friends, the pretenders or frenemies, are happy to encourage you to go in the wrong direction. And then, when you’re deep in a mess, they desert you, saying things like, “Serves you right. You deserve everything wrong that happens to you.”
Shaming is a weapon. Don’t let the bullies win.
Good for you, Josie Harris. You got some lawyer-muscle on your side to help you stand up to the Mighty Conor McGregor.
When your opponent is more than you can handle on your own, get help from people who are stronger than you. By that, I mean stronger in every area: emotionally, financially, mentally, street-smarts, whatever area you find a deficit. Find someone who can step into the gap with you and help you emerge whole and safe on the other side.
Feeling angry or scared or ashamed, takes away your clarity. Find some people who can calm the waters for you. Go to neutral. Review your options. Then, make your move. At exactly the right time, in exactly the right way.
Practice Mixed Martial Arts (MMA) for your mouth. This article is a purple belt DramaGuru lesson.
How to play DramaGuru – Advice For Newbies From a DramaGuru Player
The video below explains just enough to get the gist of the game. Have a listen, then delve in and read some posts. Gotta get that game plan together. And yes, you’ll be ready for the next time — when someone delivers a verbal zinger that takes you off your feet…and makes you sing the blues.
A guy explains how to play DramaGuru using the “start anywhere, just pick a post or an article and start reading”. He explains why he likes DramaGuru and why he’s hooked on playing it. Plus, the two most effective cornerman-styles you need to interrupt the pattern and change the game. That’s mixed martial arts for your mouth.