The January 2018 issue contains 5 articles and one summary for December. This is issue number 9 of DramaGuru the Magazine. Intense family drama made for dreadful situations involving torture, secrets and sexual abuse.
Mean! To Yourself and To Your Son’s Wife and Kids
Starting with one greedy family member who decided he was the one entitled to his son’s fortune. After his son died, Greedy Grandpa organized his son’s finances to benefit him — not his son’s wife and children.
Next, when you’re the one launching major attacks on yourself, you pin yourself into a corner with no chance of escape.
- Forgery and Lies: Former MIT Professor Turns Greedy Grandpa
- Stop Falling Into Traps You Set For Yourself!
Meaner! To Your Own Children
Mr and Mrs. Turpin tortured 12 of their 13 children, some of whom were adults — well into their 20’s. Before the neglect and cruelty was discovered, the family visited theme parks and went on vacation. But, at home, everything was brutally wrong.
Meanest! To Other People’s Children
Quantity and stealth combine to make US Olympic team therapist, Dr. Larry Nassar, the meanest villain for the month of January. Over 160 Olympic-level gymnasts came forward to speak their victim statements at his trial.
- Blind Spots, Closed Doors and Creepy Wally Hands
- Olympic Gymnasts Got Perfect Cornerman in Judge Aquilina
Everyone Needed to be Rescued
In each of the cases reviewed during the month of January, a bystander had to listen, to believe and then take an action.
Now that the #MeToo movement is gaining ground, people are more open to trusting people when they say “something weird just happened”. That doesn’t mean that the people you tell are equipped to solve the problem.
For that, you need intervention from the proper authorities.
Each case is different, but there are people in the right places who can help.
When the situation is so far out of balance, “being reasonable” doesn’t fit into the conversation. Grooming took place with the parents, administrators, coaches and the gymnasts.
Like a frog placed in cold water, you won’t leap until it’s too late…someone just put a lid on the pot.
Emotional Warfare Using 3 DramaGuru Positions: Magpie, Skunk and Vulture
Three DramaGuru positions were used to cause disruption, upset and irreparable damage. Criminals who chose to attack in intimate places where people should feel safe and cared for.
As an attacker, if you take a Magpie position, you seek out shiny objects to add to your collection. By evil deeds, the Magpie depletes and emotionally drains their victims. Anyone who is constantly on the hunt for “something better or more perfect” is in Magpie position. They will drop you when they find someone younger, prettier, stronger, healthier, wealthier or more powerful. They use this position to gain your power. Beware of the Collector!
Attack from the Skunk position: Create chaos by threatening to punish. Everyone gives a skunk respect because we know what might happen if we don’t.
Attack from the Vulture position: Entitled. Allowed. Permitted. Sanctioned. No one questions because the grooming efforts are so effective. Over time, the perpetrator can abuse someone right in front of you and you will not notice. Your mind adjusts the picture to make it “ok”.
The criminals studied in January used all but one of the DramaGuru Revelation Attacks. Only the Two-Timer Attack is missing.
Evil moves attacking emotional security can be sorted into the following categories: The Baby Jane Attack, The Eddie, The Creepy Wally, Vampire, Turncoat, Sneaky Millie.
The Grandiose Attack, being insulting, is combined with every other attack. “You’re OK. I’m not hurting you…”
Attacks can be used individually or in combination. Moving from attack to attack and from position to position is a sign of mastery.
These villains cannot be stopped by a single person or a single intervention. To unravel their game, many bystanders and family members need to get involved, band together and stand their ground.
Interrupt the Pattern, Change the Game
Look for the attacks. Identify them. Set your own trap to make a perpetrator attack in front of people they haven’t groomed yet. Small cracks lead to splintering cracks and eventually, holes show up in their arsenal, in their game, in the places where they used to get away with it.
Fight back, your way.
- The Baby Jane
- The Eddie
- The Turncoat
- The Two-Timer
- The Creepy Wally
- The Grandiose
- The Vampire
- The Sneaky Millie
Hey DramaGuru Player! What did you learn this month?
Are you able to identify an example of someone using each of the attacks listed above?
What about you? What is your favorite combination of DramaGuru Attacks that you use to make things go your way?
No one is innocent in the world of DramaGuru. Everyone uses the same tactics to persuade others, to put pressure on people and to fight back when necessary.
Are you being effective? Or are you being shut down by other people’s attacks?
If you run into something that you cannot handle alone, get some people on your side. Asking for help is a sign of strength.
Take a look at the articles listed above and stay tuned for February!
Practice Mixed Martial Arts For Your Mouth.
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