Hubris. Excessive pride or self-confidence. Arrogance.
Ever since the news broke about actor, Kevin Spacey, I wondered how he got away with his predatory behavior for so long. Taking advantage of his power and status as a “famous actor”, Kevin went Creepy Wally on men who weren’t interested in him. Just because he could. Another abuse of power, close on the heels of the Harvey Weinstein melt-down.
While causing confusion, by “pretending” to be straight, he touched, grabbed and groped men at parties (and at work), but secretly and quickly, so that the people around, didn’t really notice. For the men he bothered, Kevin’s inappropriate behavior, left a creepy memory.
“We’re all victims of our own hubris at times,” Kevin Spacey, BrainyQuote
Kevin Spacey is a blue belt villain. By using two basic DramaGuru attacks and his position of power in Hollywood, he violated men and got away with it. The trap he set, came after the abuse — because people were afraid to speak up.
Assaulted, Insulted and Trapped!
Being confused and pretending like everything is normal is the trap! Predators push you into that trap knowing that you won’t know what to do about it. And trusting that you believe that no one will listen to you.
To be clear, attacks like these are power. Sex is the weapon used to abuse people.
The Eddie Attack happened, but it’s hard-wired because of Kevin Spacey’s position as an actor in the community. He has positional power.
The Creepy Wally Attack is obviously part of Kevin’s arsenal.
The attacks left the men feeling confused, like an Ostrich. And that insult (on many different levels) lingered in memory for years.
When the Unexpected Happens, Get loud!
The only way to handle a surprise attack like that is to get loud. Just like a kid on the playground, start screaming, yelling, say things like, “Get off me, man!”
At least, it will draw attention. And you can feel like you did something to protect yourself. Over time, the shrieking and loud, angry voices, become undeniable. As people notice that things go wrong when a certain person [the predator] is around — because he makes people uncomfortable.
And then, after ignoring the gossip and complaints for years…
The response from Kevin’s employers like Netflix, for example, has been swift. They can’t disconnect from him fast enough. He’s being killed off in the final season of his hit show, “House of Cards”. And deleted completely, with his scenes re-filmed from an upcoming movie.
“Spacey is currently seeking unspecified treatment, according to a statement from his publicist, who has since parted ways with the actor.” Christopher Plummer replacing Kevin Spacey in ‘All the Money in the World’
How the Violated Men Won in the End
In order to catch — and punish — predators who don’t leave clues behind, someone has to be willing to be the first one to speak out. That’s risky! Standing alone until others feel safe enough to join in.
Then when others add their voices, their collective Eddie Attack is used offensively to push the perpetrator into a trap he can’t escape from.
The Eddie Attack is used to gang up on people. It’s a collective show of force that can cause someone to feel like an insider or an outsider.
By speaking out, his accuser, Anthony Rapp reversed the position of power turning Kevin Spacey from insider to outsider.
And then, Karma boomerangs back to hit Kevin with a Creepy Wally Attack as the internet and news reports reveal all the sordid details, shaming Kevin and bringing his bad behavior to light. Now Kevin is embarrassed, dealing with too much unwanted attention.
With the news revealed, being confused and pretending to be “cool” about it, is no longer necessary. The men are released from the cruel trap of Ostrich Position.
And Kevin is the one hiding his head in the sand.
A reminder that if you’re a predator and you’re starting to get worried that your time is coming, you should be worried because it is: https://t.co/ZStSdhUzZ3
— Anne T. Donahue (@annetdonahue) November 9, 2017
What Kevin Spacey Did (Apparently, When Drunk)
Kris Nixon, a 30-year-old bartender from Belfast, Northern Ireland, says he was working at the Lounge34 cocktail bar in the Waterloo district of London, where Spacey frequented while serving as artistic director of the Old Vic Theatre. (The bar has since closed.)…“I just brushed it off as some drunk guy did something inappropriate. It just happened to be Kevin Spacey. Whether he misinterpreted something, I don’t know,” Nixon tells PEOPLE. “Last week when I saw Anthony Rapp speak out, I thought, ‘No it’s not that. It’s a series of behavior. He’s a predator. It’s not just an incident.’ I believe he thinks that he could get away with things — or thought that he could get away with things — because of who he was. And you know what? He did.” 2 More Men Accuse Kevin Spacey of Sexual Misconduct: ‘It Was My Word Against His’, People
Since then, by way of apology, Kevin has declared, “I choose now to live as a gay man.”. As if that explains anything or makes it okay.
More from the People article noted above: “Within minutes of Buzzfeed breaking the story on Rapp, I thought, ‘Oh my God. I’m not the only one,’ [Former Marine, Mark] Ebenhoch, 58, tells PEOPLE. ‘Then you have the cavalcade and entire rush of memories.
I went right back to the moment of that incident and thought I’m not the only one. Oh my God. I’m vindicated. And I wasn’t the only one that sat there and said, ‘This is creepy.’ Or had all those feelings of violation, indignation.
I’ve read a lot of the feedback from people saying, ‘Well why didn’t they come forward [when it happened]?’ And I want to scream. People need to be in somebody else’s shoes before you react to what people do years later on these kind of things.’
He adds that the alleged incidents have nothing to do with the victims’ sexuality. ‘Gay, straight, male, female. It makes no difference,’ he says. ‘This is about behavior and when people in power abuse that relationship — or that stature they have — to gain things from other people, it’s disgusting’.”
Practice Mixed Martial Arts (MMA) for your mouth.This article is a blue belt DramaGuru lesson.
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