Louis CK Got Full Support From His Audience
When Louis CK stood in front of audiences and basically, self-confessed to lewd behavior with women, everyone laughed. Now, the ugly truth has been revealed and the people who laughed feel uncomfortable. Because real people were damaged in order for Louis’s jokes to be told. And he used his warped experience to became famous.
The people laughing didn’t realize they were being drawn into an Eddie Attack. They were insiders — they were cool with Louis CK. I’ve never listened to his work. So, I don’t know whether I would have laughed or not.
But there were people who knew that something was very wrong
More men are being outed as predators. And the people who hired them, praised them and profited by them are now swiftly, severing relationships with them. The NYTimes did a video with the current list of men impacted by women’s revelations of sexual assault.
Anyway, the Eddie Attack is named after Eddie Haskell, a young guy who would sell you out in a heartbeat, if it made him look good. He was genius at drawing people to his side, but eventually, they ended up feeling –slimy, like the people in Louis’s TV audience. “Hey! Wait! That was true?! And I laughed at it? Ugh!”
“Power tends to corrupt, and absolute power corrupts absolutely.” John Emerich Edward Dalberg-Acton
Recognizing that the men whose public face we trusted, abused their power in this way makes my heart ache.
DramaGuru Smash Analysis: Blue Belt Villain Number One
And then, after a suitable grieving time, I want to understand how the predator attacks. The depth of Louis’s fight plan is/was:
- Start with positional power. I have significant control over decision-making regarding whether people pursue you, drop you or ignore you. Skunk Position
- Use the Eddie attack to create “insiders vs outsiders”. You become an insider by tolerating sexually deviant behavior.
- Touching himself without consent from other people present, makes the level of attack grandiose.
- Blue Belt level villain. Louis thought he set a trap for women, but really, he dug a deep hole for himself…and finally, fell in it. Because he talked about it all the time.
- Boomerang effect finally caught up with him. He might have done worse things, but what we know is enough to cause damage to his reputation and career.
Yes, it was true.
So, if you laughed along with Louis CK, you fell into a Blue Belt Villain trap.
“Louis C.K. has never settled for just making jokes about other people; he has built a career on being a chronicler of his own privilege, his own comfort, his own excess, his own perversion and poor behavior. This self-awareness was comforting, for a while: He knows he’s terrible, we thought, so he must somehow be one of the good ones…The fact that C.K. spent years making self-aware jokes about men’s sexual aggression only makes the revelation of his own alleged behavior feel more like a personal betrayal.” Louis C.K. Told Us Who He Was, But That Doesn’t Make It Better:
Rather than dig through the sordid details of Louis’s creepy behavior, I decided to watch the second season of “One Mississippi”, a show produced by Louis CK. I do like the “One Mississippi” Netflix show, but at times, I think the humor is a bit caustic and detached.
The Way I See It
The hero in the story, Tig Notaro, is emotionally drained. Disconnected, empty and distant. Guarded and hungry to connect…but who can she trust? Her character’s position reminds me of the Skunk and Porcupine DramaGuru Revelation cards.
Tig is someone you respect because she might sting you. But what you also notice is, underneath the pain, there’s a lot of hurt.
Keeping people distant is a defensive strategy. No one will hurt you, if you act like you will hurt them first.
Most Insulting Sex Crimes Go Unreported
In the second season, the topic of sexual abuse, harassment and assault started in the first episode. When women start talking about the weird stuff that happens when certain men are around, the list gets really long. Being “creeped out” or feeling insulted is not the same as feeling violated. Each woman’s list usually has a mix of both.
My list includes something that happened when I was 15. On a shopping trip to a department store with two of my friends, I wandered off to look at some clothes that caught my eye. As I stood on one side of the big cube full of clothing, a creepy guy stood opposite me. With a weird look on his face, he dropped his hand and started touching himself.
Back in those days, in the seventies, we weren’t exposed to sexual behavior to the same level that kids today have access to online. I was innocent and didn’t really understand what was going on. I gave him a disapproving look and wandered off to find my friends.
But, he followed me.
Blue Belt Villain: Creepy Wally Number Two
As I stood with my friends, telling them what happened, he did it again, making sure we saw him.
Without telling anyone, we left the store. Apparently, he knew the shortcut we took home through a wooded area. As we passed by an opening, there he was — with his penis out! We ran for our lives.
And we never told anyone. The only thing I remember about him is that he looked like James Caan.
Was it our fault? No.
Why didn’t we tell?
I think we thought that no one would be able to find him. I guess I hadn’t watched that many crime shows then either. Who knows? The police might have had complaints about him. We might have been able to add something that would help with his capture.
Normalizing Weird Creepy Wally Behavior: Blue Belt Villain Number Three
On the first show, second season of “One Mississippi”, Kate, who is Tig’s assistant on her radio show, shared a story about a basketball coach who asked the girls on the high school basketball team to line up. He said he could tell who was on their period because they gave off a certain smell. He then proceeded to sniff crotches trying to guess who was menstruating. The girls were curious to see if he could guess…so no one complained or said anything about it.
If it really doesn’t bother you, then that’s great. But somebody was bothered. The coach violated trust. Would he have done that if parents were present? Of course not. And even if one girl felt violated, she risked being “uncool” by not going along with the “game”. And that feeling of being confused is a common theme when women relate their experiences.
Blue Belt Villain Number Four
In the office, it happened to Kate, who is open and available — but not to Tig, who is neither of those things.
It’s possible to give the villain too much respect by staying in the room, not saying anything or by ignoring it.
So, where does this conversation go from here? Are men going to join in with the weird things women have done to them? Dominating and controlling is the domain of an abuser. And, therefore, not gender specific.
HollywoodReporter: “Louis C.K. is a credited producer, but you have said he’s not involved in the show. You recently gave an interview to the Daily Beast where you said C.K. should “handle” the similar sexual allegations that have been lodged against him by anonymous sources and by Roseanne Barr. Have you spoken to him?
I have not spoken to Louis in probably going on two years now. I will never hear from Louis C.K. again.
Not even after you called him out for the similarities of his SNL sketch?
No. I never heard from him. I will never hear from him.”
That’s cool. Probably better that way. Maybe Sarah Silverman will be lucky enough to get the same treatment from Louis CK. Because it looks like, Sarah isn’t ready to block Louis’s number yet.
“…like a Yellow Pages, but for men you should avoid.”
As Tig suggests, someone should really do that.
All DramaGuru cards designed by Cheryl Ragsdale.
Tig Notaro and Kate: screenshots from “One Mississippi” on Amazon.