It’s a Bad Habit, Being Spiteful
The cyber-bully Eddie Attack attracts a handful of negative comments or hundreds…or even thousands. When you decide you’re more worthy of approval, love or respect than another person, you are being an Eddie.
Negative energy attracts more negative energy. And if you’re the one who started it, that makes you the Host.
So, what does “like attracts like” mean in this situation?
As the Host, all that dark and dirty, negative energy gets hooked and anchored to you.
It’s always there, swimming around you.
The more negative and nasty you are, the more you will attract the same kind of person. Lucky you.
What Goes Around, Comes Around
When you get away with being spiteful, you just keep on doing it. Only you take bigger risks. Until the day, when you say something stupid to the wrong person.
People who are expert at using the Eddie attack usually get away with it. But not always.
Because people can band together and use the Eddie attack to retaliate against you.
You could be using your special leadership qualities to move things forward in positive ways. Instead, you and your crew are standing in the middle of a swamp pretending it doesn’t stink.
Good luck with that.
When One Rude Comment Starts An Avalanche
Who started it?
“It starts with one person, one comment, one post.” It’s Not Physical. It’s Personal: Cyberbullying PSA (see the video below)
Attacks From the Audience
Being in the audience, behind a computer, watching on TV or even, shouting from the stands, is a safe place to launch verbal attacks of all kinds.
When it gets personal, like leaving comments on Facebook, Twitter and other social media, it’s devastating for the person you’re attacking.
Shame is a weapon. It digs in deep and spreads, creating a hole where security should be.
Maybe, to you, it feels like there are no repercussions — like you got away with it.
Time will tell. Years later, bad behavior boomerangs back.
Let’s see how you like it when you feel isolated, cut off from the group and alone.
Or maybe, if you’re just committing small infractions, bad behavior shows up in small ways.
Next time, you get stuck in unexpected traffic or you drop your ice cream cone in full sight of people who would frown on you picking it up and eating it, remember you were warned.
Control your mouth and your fingers on the keyboard: garbage in, garbage out.
Advice From Your DramaGuru Cornerman:
If someone is attacking you from the audience, remember that shame is an effective weapon used to push people into an outsider position.
Fight back! You are not an outsider!
Get some people on your side — or pretend that you have people on your side — and remain an insider.
You are not alone.
Practice Mixed Martial Arts (MMA) for your mouth. This article is an all belt levels lesson.
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